Counselling is a process that enables individuals to heighten their self-awareness, curiosity, and personal growth.

*Counselling services are not available at this time. 

At Mind Body Soul Kelowna, our counsellors utilize a variety of evidence-based techniques to address a range of concerns such as anxiety, depression, relationship challenges, addiction, grief, trauma, and major life transitions. Counselling is a therapeutic process that can be beneficial at any point in our lives. Our counsellors are experienced and designated as Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC), Canadian Certified Counsellor (CCC), or Registered Social Worker (RSW). Whether dealing with crisis, times of transition, or other challenges, we all have an inherent strength to overcomes life’s challenges.

Consider asking yourself the following questions:

  • Why can’t I relax?
  • Why do I worry all the time?
  • Why does my life feel out of control?
  • Why can’t I sleep?
  • Why do I second guess myself most of the time?
  • Why do i overthink everything?
  • Why can’t I let go of the past?
  • Why don’t I have any appetite?


Most couples come to counselling with the identified issue of “communication problems”. They describe the situation like this- “All we do is fight” or “He doesn’t listen to me” or “She reacts to everything I say”. While this is a well-travelled loop in their relationship, my strategy is to identify the underlying reasons that this pattern developed.

In an exercise I give to couples, they identify their needs and fears in their relationship. Then we identify reaction styles when their needs are not being met or their fears are being triggered. With this understanding, we develop new relationship/ communication dynamics.


Fast facts from the 2014 Survey on Living with Chronic Diseases in Canada:

“Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in North America, affecting 40 million adults age 18 and older, or 18.1% of the population. Anxiety disorders are characterized by excessive and persistent feelings of nervousness, anxiety, and even fear. These types of disorders interfere with an individual’s everyday life for an extended period of time. Professional care combined with active engagement in self-management strategies can foster recovery and improve the well-being of people affected by these disorders, ultimately enabling them to lead full and active lives.”


Resilience is like a muscle that is often exercised most during adversity and for me is determined by perspective. Am I able to move forward in spite of my challenges and disappointment? Perspective changes everything. Sometimes, it is difficult to see our own situations clearly. We lose hope.
We feel powerless. Counseling helps to determine new perspectives, while identifying strengths and different options.

“You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”


Often, I will ask a client- “What is the story you are making up in your head right now?” They will look at me with a confused look on their face and most will say “But I am not telling myself anything”. The fact is they are probably unaware of their internal dialogue. They may relate better to the question “what are you feeling right now?” Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a form of psychotherapy that focuses on how your thoughts, beliefs and attitudes affect your feelings and behavior.

It is important to become aware of your thoughts and beliefs and look for distortions and assumptions. This is especially important in relationships. So we start with thinking, which informs emotions and ultimately determines reactions and behaviors.